Thursday, June 21, 2012

Day 334 - Stronger


This is dedicated to all my friends who have had to endure some interesting situations lately that have made/are making them stronger.  Everything in life has the potential to make us stronger, wiser, and better depending on how we interpret and use what happened.  Even if the situation sucked or if the person treated you wrong, don't be bitter - use it to make you better.  #empowered
"You know the bed feels warmer sleeping here alone.  You know I dream in color and do the things I want.  You think you've got the best of me?  Think you've had the last laugh?  Bet you think that everything good is gone.  Think you left me broken down, think that I'd come running back?  Baby, you don't know me, cuz you're dead wrong."  The first line of this song seems a bit contradictory - why is the bed warmer when there is only one person in it?  But when you have a relationship that is more filled with tension and frustration and hurt than it is with love and care, it can leave you feeling cold and lonely when you are with the person. So when they leave, you feel a sense of relief and love for yourself can return, taking the forefront and keeping you warmer than a bad relationship can.  This kind of freedom allows the singer to dream in color, live more fully, and do what makes her happy.  While the one who left might think that she is hurting with them and that she will run back, needing them to feel complete, she says that all such thoughts are way off, because she will be doing no such thing.
"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stand a little taller - doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone.  What doesn't kill you makes you fighter, footsteps even lighter - doesn't mean I'm over cuz you're gone.  What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stronger.  Just me, myself and I.  What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stand a little taller - doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone."  I love the chorus, because it is just strong and full of independent energy. She uses an old adage to let us know that even though tough situations (like someone significant leaving) might be hard and make you feel like you won't make it, when you get to the other side, you will be stronger.  Going through the pain of a tough break-up has the ability to show you strength that you didn't know you had.  You see that you can get through things you didn't think you could and you can live without someone that you didn't think you could.  You learn that you can be alone but not feel lonely and sad in that space.  And you learn how to fight through those painful emotions to be a stronger person on the other side. 
"You heard that I was starting over with someone new.  They told you I was moving on, over you.  You didn't think that I'd come back, I'd come back swinging.  You tried to break me, but you see..."  So the singer was left by someone who likely thought it would devastate her. Now she has (hopefully) healed and is seeing someone else, and news is getting back to her old love. She has gotten over them and is moving on to live life again without them.  The old love probably figured she would fall apart and be unable to function with them, but she has taken what happened and allowed it to make her stronger.  She fought for herself, and now she is happy with someone new.
"Thanks to you I got a new thing started.  Thanks to you I'm not the brokenhearted.  Thanks to you I'm finally thinking bout me.  You know in the end the day you left is just my beginning. In the end..."  Having gone through all she did, she is now able to thank her old love.  Even though it wasn't the best of circumstances, this situation has grown her and enabled her to find a new start and more love for herself.  While it seemed to be the end of things, their break-up seems to have been the new beginning that she needed - like the fire for a phoenix...

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