Thursday, February 23, 2012

Day 295 - Best Thing I Never Had



While this song may not seem like a love song per se, I think it speaks to the type of love that I've been blogging about the most - self love.  Sometimes you have to recognize a person for who/what they really are and decide that, despite what's in your heart for them, that you need/deserve more than they can/will give.
"What goes around comes back around, hey, my baby.  What goes around comes back around, my, my, my baby.  I say, what goes around comes back around, hey, my baby.  What goes around comes back around."  I'm a strong believer in karma, so I do my best to treat others and stay faithful and respectful of relationship.  It appears that the sing has been wronged in some way by the person she cared for, and she is essentially that what he did to her will be done back to him. 
"There was a time I thought that you did everything right - no lies, no wrong.  Boy, I must've been out of my mind."  It's amazing how we sometimes wear the rose-colored glasses of infatuated love that make a person appear more wonderful than they are and without flaws.  Of course, sometimes, the person plays a large part in that, hiding and covering up and lying to give us that impression.  But it's not long before the truth confronts us and we have to decide what to do with it.
"So when I think of the time that I almost loved you, you showed your ass and I saw the real you.  Thank God you blew it.  I thank God I dodged a bullet.  I'm so over you, so, baby, good looking out."  As the singer reflects, she thinks how close she came to giving her heart to someone who was truly deserving, and she can't help but to praise God for delivering her.  There are times when God doesn't give us what we pray/ask for, and this seems to be one of the times when we see why.  She avoided making a huge mistake, and she is thankful to the person for revealing his true colors in time enough for her to run and avoid complete heartbreak. 
"I wanted you bad.  I'm so through with that, cuz honestly, you turned out to be the best thing I never had.  You turned out to be the best thing I never had, and I'm gon' always be the best thing you never had.  Oh yeah, I bet it sucks to be you right now."  She badly wanted to be in relationship with him, really liking him, but now that the truth of who he is has come out, she has no more desire for him.  This is where the self love comes in - you have to recognize that despite the palpitations of your heart, if someone doesn't treat you well, you have to be willing to let them go no matter how much you wanted them.  While he appeared to be great, he is really the best at being the worst.  He is at the top of the list for what she doesn't need.  And on the other hand, she is the best person that he will never have.  She confidently asserts that she is amazing and that because he screwed up, he missed out on having someone awesome like her.  No one as awesome as she is will ever love him. 
"So sad, you're hurt, boohoo.  O, did you expect me to care?  You don't deserve my tears, I guess that's why they ain't there."  For her, she sees that he now has regrets and is upset by the way things have played out, but she finds it hard to have sympathy when he is the one that messed up and did her wrong.  He made the choice to do her wrong, so she can't be sympathetic about the consequences of his actions.
"I know you want me back.  It's time to face the facts that I'm the one that's got away.  Lord knows that it would take another place, another time, another world, another life.  Thank God I found the good in good-bye."  It is time for him to accountable, taking responsibility for his actions.  He has done wrong to her, and there is no getting her back.  In the music video, she is getting married to someone else, so it really looks like there is no more possibility for him.  She says it would take another world and another lifetime for there to be possibility, but in this present space, nope.  She once again thanks God for redirecting her path and for allowing her to see the good in good-bye.  While most people hate saying "good-bye," in this case, it proved to be a good thing, because it is keeping her from future heartache at the hands of this person.

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