Friday, September 9, 2011

Day 220 - Make Me Better




“I’m a movement by myself, but I'm a force when we’re together.  Mami, I'm good all by myself, but baby you, you make me better.”  I absolutely love the chorus to this song.  It really epitomizes what relationships should be.  There is a prevailing thought (and some media with the theme) that “I can do bad all by myself,” so ideally, any relationship we engage in should help us and enhance our lives in some way.  Otherwise, for all the work and stress that relationships take, it would be MUCH easier to just be by ourselves.  This chorus captures this truth, as this man expresses the fact that he is sufficient by himself, but the woman in his life makes him even better than he is by himself. 
“You plus me, it equal better math.  Your boy a good look, but she my better half.  I’m already boss and I’m already flossing, but why have the cake if it ain’t got the sweet frosting?  Keeping me on my A game without having the same name.  They may flame, but shorty, we burn it up.  The sag in my swag.  The pep in my step.  Daddy do the Gucci, Mami in Gisettes.  Yes, it’s a G thing whenever we swing.  Imma need Coretta Scott if I’m gon be King.”  He starts this verse by essentially saying that their union as a whole is greater than the sum of the two of them.  As he is on his own, he’s great and he has it going on, but with her, things are exponentially greater.  She is the complement to his already established and amazing life.  Cake by itself is good, but icing just adds that extra kick of sweetness that makes it taste that much better.  They may not be married or related, but she adds to his life and helps keep him in check, doing his best.  He recognizes that in order for him to do great things, he will need some good support, and he sees that as her.  This can be true for all of us, whether it’s a good friend, a parent, a sibling, a romantic relationship, or even a community of folks – none of us can do and be all that we are supposed to on our own.  Of course, we have to take the time to establish and nurture quality relationships that will help us get where we want to be, because it doesn’t help to have people around just to say that you have someone.
“First things first – does what I do.  Everything I am, she’s my improve.  I’m already boss.  I’m already fly, but if I’m a star, she is the sky.  And when I feel like I'm on top, she give me reason to not stop.  And though I’m hot, together we burn it up.”  The woman in his life seems to be his motivator and his encouragement.  She gives him reason to do what he does and she even seems to be the backdrop to what he does, being the sky in which the stars shine.  Reminds me of the concept of “wind beneath my wings” – while the wind may not be seen, the bird cannot fly without it.  It plays a supportive role even from the background.
“The cleaned up cut, the cleaned up ice – when Shorty come around, I clean up nice.  Dynamic duo – Batman and Robin.  Whoever don’t like it, it’s that man’s problem.  And when I feel like I'm tired, Mami be taking me higher.  I’m on fire, but Shorty, we burn it up.”  His girl inspires him to do better and maintain his appearance.  It’s not a matter of looking good to impress or even keep the one you’re with – it’s about putting in effort to show the person that you care enough to clean up for them and look nice.  And he regards their relationship so highly that he says that anyone who doesn’t like it is irrelevant, writing it off as that person’s issue to contend with and not one that will affect his relationship with his girl.  He knows that he can’t do what he does as well as he does without her, because she helps him keep going when things get tough, and because of this, they do great things together.
“Cuz beside every great man, you can find a woman like a soldier holding him down.  She treats me like a Don – watches for the hit.  Checks where I go, even watches who I’m with.  Right when I'm wrong so I never slip.  Show me how to move – that’s why I never trip.  And baby girl, you so major, they should front page you.  God bless the parents who made you.  Middle finger anybody who hate the way we burn it up.”  Beside every great person is a great support.  No matter how great someone is as an individual, that person needs someone to watch their back and help them see things.  His girl watches his associates, because she understands that the people you surround yourself with influence you greatly.  She watches what he does and advises him on how to make the best moves.  He appreciates what she does, saying she should be on the front page of the newspaper, held up for all to see.  He even thanks God for her parents who were brought together to create her.  And once again, he defies anyone to come against their relationship.  He recognizes that there may be haters, but he’s not concerned about their opinion.  I wish that in life it were always this easy to dismiss people’s opinions of relationships, but that’s its own blog entry….

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