Blame it on Me
I absolutely love this song. Maybe it’s the power with which she belts the vocals. Maybe it’s the depth of emotion with which she desires to be free from this now negative situation. Or maybe it’s my memory of belting this song at a poetry night last month…. Either way, here goes.
“Sometimes you can work it out. Sometimes you can’t. Sometimes you’re forced to watch everything fall apart – it’s out of your hands. Sometimes leaving is easy, sometimes it ain’t. Sometimes it hurts to know the loving you had is slowly fading away.” The reality of relationships is that they don’t always last. As a previous entry highlights, relationships can be reason, season, or lifetime. When we come to the realization that one of our relationships is anything short of lifetime, it can be a painful thing, as is the case in this song. And sometimes, no matter how many conversations we have or how much we try to fix things, it will not change the fact that the end has come.
“You can say whatever you like, as long as we just say ‘good-bye.’ Blame it on me. Say it’s my fault. Say that I left you outside in the cold with a broken heart. I really don’t care. I ain’t crying no more. Say I’m a liar, a cheater, say anything that you want as long as it’s over.” It appears as if Chrisette has recognized that her relationship has come to its ending point, and she is even willing to take the blame for it. She’s just gotten to the point where she knows that it’s over. She gives her partner permission to dog her out in the street and tell people that she messed up. For her, this is a small price to pay for the freedom that she seeks in letting this relationship go. While some people will argue tooth and nail to make it look like the other person’s fault when a relationship, she is willing to give him excuses to use if it will end things faster.
“I ain’t a quitter – I just ain’t the type. I tried to see it through, I tried to make it to the finishing line. Ooo, you thought it was meant to be. I admit so did I. Every once in a while, you think you figured it out – sometimes you’re not right.” While she has given her all to try to make the relationship work, because she’s not the type to give up easily, she sees that this is not going to have a “happily ever after” ending. They’d both thought that this was gonna be “the one,” but upon further exploration and relating, it’s become obvious that this is not the case. I think this can be the case in any reason or season relationship that we try to apply lifetime status too. Ideally all of our relationships would be lifetime so that we wouldn’t have to endure the pain of separation, but sadly, that’s not the case.
“Yes, I love you, but I really gotta lose you – freedom’s where I wanna be. Yes, I’ll probably always love you, but I’m moving – gotta do this for me.” The end of their relationship doesn’t mean that she doesn’t love the person. It does, however, mean that being in this relationship is not allowing her to love herself in the best way. The circumstances of the relationship have pushed her to need to break free, and, with her love for her friend in tow, she is moving on.
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