Day 41 - Dontchange

As you may be able to tell from the title, today's entry is about a song by Musiq Soulchild called Don't Change.  I love this song.  It has a beautiful sentiment, and the video is sweet.  It shows the beauty of love that can grow and evolve over time, portraying the time and commitment and realities of love - "even when you get on my last nerve, I couldn't see myself leaving with another girl."  In our modern world, there is a lot of "love" based on outer appearance, physique, financial status, power and prominence, or even what someone else can do for you, so it is beautiful to see that there are still people (especially in the music business) who have the desire and ability to love in a way that can last beyond the orgasm and the paycheck.
My only slight concern with the song is that there seems to be a slight conflict.  "Let me assure you, darling, that my feelings are truly unconditional... I'll love you... the way I feel for you will always be the same just as long as your love don't change."  So, your love won't change as long as mine doesn't.  Your love is essentially based on mine....  For me, this presents a problem in a way, because it seems that you have given your power to the object of your love.  Now, I'm not saying to stay hooked on someone who doesn't love you and means on or abuses you and makes it clear that they have no healthy intentions for your love.  But I am saying that, while love may not change so much, the manifestations may or may not be the strongest, especially when life hits us particularly hard.  For example, if you cheat on me, I will still love you, but it may not manifest the same way, because the violation creates a tenderness which makes openness and vulnerability hard. 
All I'm saying is that love may change, move, and grow, but what I do shouldn't be based on how you feel today.  Everyone has moments, but ultimately my power in loving and relating to you should rest within me and my decisions to continue doing so.