So clearly the title of this entry will most grab attention and raise some eyebrows. I was talking to a friend the other day, and we were talking about relationships and men and such. She was talking about her desire to have an 'interaction,' saying, "it's just dick." I thought about it for a second, and then I flipped out. It is sentiments like this that make things like objectification and rape possible. If you someone as one of two body parts as opposed to a whole person with worth and feelings, then it's not a big leap to using that person for those body parts and being able to relate to someone in a purely physical way. Despite what people say and think, it is virtually impossible to just have sex with people without some sort of emotional connection forming. Now, people do this because they feel like it's a way of experiencing pleasure or being free sexually, but in the end, I believe there's an intentional disconnect (from abuse, misconstrued masculinity, intentional ignoring of feelings to avoid pain, etc).
I believe people are meant to connect on deep levels, and to just connect physically is (while fun) less than fully satisfying. I'm not saying that sex is bad, because it can clearly be a beautiful thing, but Love desires sex as a part of it, not the basis or entirety of it. Sex and love are not interchangeable. Be careful to keep it in its proper perspective, because otherwise, you have end up empty with orgasms.
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