So in a conversation with one of my sisters, I was reflecting on a previous entry (http://thelovelyyear.blogspot.com/2011/12/day-258-when-love-isnt-enough.html). We were talking about the fact that her friend cares for her, but the difficult place that they find themselves in their relationship makes such a bit difficult to grasp. I concluded that while it is truly wonderful that love is there and that affection is not lacking, more is always required in a relationship that just the mushy stuff. That's when this song came to mind.
"I don't wanna rain on this parade, but I'm starting to question
the love that was made. I'm not looking for just an affair. I want a
love that is based on truth not just dare.” While the singer appreciates
the beauty of what they have and what we share, I have concerns that
what we have may be more fleeting and unsettled than what she desires.
She desires a long-term relationship and commitment, not just a fling or
a casual thing because it's convenient. She wants a relationship and
love based in truth and care and commitment.
"You will not
hurt my pride if right now you decide that you are not ready to settle
down. But if you want my heart, then it's time that you start to act
like you're mine in the light and the dark. If you love me, say it. If
you trust me, do it. If you want me, show it. If you need me, prove
it." She has come to the point that she is putting herself out there.
She is saying that she would prefer honesty about where her love is -
not at a place of being willing to commit as she desires - than to
continue to deal with something that is less than serious and pulling at
her heart strings because of its inconsistency. She says that if you
love me, I need you to articulate that to me. If you trust me, do it -
take that next step and commit, acting in love and trust of what we
have. If you want me, show me that I'm important to you and that you
really desire for me to be in your life. And if you recognize that I'm a
necessity in your life, then prove that to me. Hear what I want and
need and do what is necessary to keep me.
"You see now
actions speak louder than words, so don't just say things that I've
already heard. Don't want your body without your soul. I don't want a
love who will come here and go." As he saying makes clear, actions tell a
person more than the most articulate words. The singer is in essence
saying that you can say all the beautiful, flattering words that you
want to, but if your actions don't reflect what you've said, then the
words are empty, because actions create reality. Also, she wants her
friend to love her wholly, not just have sex with her. And for her part,
she wants to give her heart to this relationship, but she wants to feel
that there is a true commitment and love to give herself to. Why would
she fully extend her heart when things are not clear and set?
"I
wanna touch you baby, and spread my love all around you, honey. And if
you care, you gotta show, baby. True love we'll share." She wants
things to go well. She wants to touch and share and love. She just wants
her friend to show that same love so that she feels secure in sharing
and giving of herself. And she is confident that when they get to that
place of relationship, they will find and share true, authentic love.
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