Day 115 - These are the Times

I kinda love this song.  I also kinda miss Dru Hill as a group, but I digress.  The beauty of this song for me is really in the chorus.  "These are the times we all wish for - the moment when less means so much more.  We don't have to do a thing at all; we can take our time and talk. And this is the way things need to be - no pressure from you and none from me. Just let the mood set the moment off.  We can make love or not at all."  For me, this is phenomenal, because it speaks to the fact that love is not always about sex.  It's about conversation and respect and shared presence.  And if physical intimacy comes as a result, then it does, but it doesn't have to.  This, in my mind, is the sign of a mature, loving relationship. 
"God knows that you're a sexy thang. It's taking everything in me not to kiss you over, under, feel your inside feel my thunder - how the hell could I not want you?  Girl it don't have to be a thang.  I'll wait for you, you wait for me, cuz true love's insisting we don't have to rush at all." This verse in the song leads me to believe that the couple may not have physically consummated their relationship, and the singer strongly desires to... but as he says, true love is in no hurry.  Maybe his partner isn't ready or maybe they have some distance between them.  Either way, despite his desire, he shows us that love is respectful enough not to rush and put his needs ahead of his partner's. 
"Be thinking bout you all the time - morning, noon, and supper time. Tear you up in little pieces, swallow you like reeses pieces, come on, girl, you know I need it.  I know it ain't suppose to be a thing.  I know I'll wait for you, you wait for me, and I know cuz true love's insisting we don't have to rush at at all."  Even in his moments of impatience and desire, even in thinking about the things that they could do, he keeps in mind that true love will not rush the beauty of the moment.  
"I don't make promises, cuz I know my heart gets weak. When I get around you, girl, it makes them hard to keep, cuz you bring out the best, make me the man God knows I'm proud to be."  I respect his honesty in desiring not to make promises that he may not be able to keep.  And I appreciate that his relationship brings out the best in him and makes him more of the man that God created him to be.  In my mind, any good relationship should do this, especially for the people who are closest to us.  Our relationships should challenge and push us to be better, stronger, more authentic, more compassionate, more loving, etc. 
So kudos to Dru Hill for a great song.  Remember, love isn't impatient and it will lead the way for the perfect moment for anything.  And if a relationship isn't helping to make you better, then it may need to be reconsidered.