I was thinking about the entry from yesterday, and I think that this song connects in a way. The first time I heard this song was at UVA, and one of my beautiful people friends was singing it. She was going hard, and initially I was just laughing at her, but as I listened to the words, I began to appreciate the song itself.
“I’m not a perfect person. There’s many things I wish I didn’t do, but I continue learning. I never meant to do those things to you, and so I have to say before I go that I just want you to know...” The singer is acknowledging that he can basically be a mess, but he is willing to learn from his mistakes. He realizes that his actions have been hurtful to the one he loves, and he wants the person to know what he has realized and found as a result of what’s happened.
“I found a reason for me to change who I used to be, a reason to start over new and the reason is you.” The singer has met someone who inspires him to be better than he was before. While he previously did things that hurt the person he was in relationship with, he has since seen the pain he caused and come to himself. He has been inspired to change and start afresh, not necessarily out of internal motivation to be better but out of love for someone else. While I think that internal motivation tends to be a better reason for wanting to change, at times it takes a push from an external motivator to get the ball rolling. And once the ball gets going, you can feel so great about growing and changing that you continue the work for yourself.
“I’m sorry that I hurt you. It’s something I must live with everyday. And all the pain I put you through – I wish that I could take it all away, and be the one who catches all your tears. That’s why I need you to hear…” While it’s not clear what the specific hurt endured is, it’s clear that whatever he did was painful for the person in his life. It may have been infidelity or abuse. Or, if this wasn’t a romantic relationship, maybe he betrayed someone’s trust or he did something like drugs or another destructive behavior that hurt him (and by relationship, hurt his friend). The desire to be the one who dries the tears leads me to believe that the relationship may be over since he doesn’t have access to comfort his friend. So, instead of being able to comfort with presence, his words are to be an assurance that he has changed. Even if they are no longer in relationship, he still wants her to know that he’s been inspired to change.
“I found a reason to show a side of me you didn’t know, a reason for all that I do, and the reason is you.” It appears that he has known that there is more to him, but for whatever reason, he’d kept it hidden. Now, motivated by the situation with his friend, he’s been inspired to show another side of himself (presumably one that is better and will keep him from hurting people in the future).
I have definitely had some help and motivation in becoming a better – some from within and some from the people who have shown that they love me and that they want the best for me. This has been especially true when I have seen that what I am doing hurts someone. I’m thankful for the many reasons I’ve had to change and grow.