"We may tell ourselves that love is not really available. but the deeper truth is that we don't entirely trust it, and therefore have a hard time fully opening to it or letting it all the way into us. This disconnects us from our own heart, exacerbating our sense of love's scarcity." - John Welwood
There's not much that can be said about this particular quotation that isn't obvious. It does seem that people say that love is the problem - it's not available, it's too hard, there's not enough, etc.... But I think that, as the quotation tells us, it is our issues, baggage, and hang ups with love that create some of the issues. And it's understandable, because when we are taught early on that love is earned or that it's based on performance or that it's more pain than pleasure, we would tend to avoid it. When songs on the radio, portrayals in the "news," movies, sitcoms, and all of our outlets tell us that love is a fantasy reserved for princesses and their prince charming, then why put in the effort, especially if you've never seen the beauty of love? So when we fear love and avoid it, this becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, and we don't find love, because we've shaped ourselves to be against it, even when we're on dating websites and in singles' bars or even in relationships.
So I say to face love head on. If you're afraid of love and intimacy and sharing space, figure out why. What is it about love (or the things associated with it) that make you cringe and fold deeper into yourself? Oprah talks a lot about energy, and so consider the energy of your heart. What you give off is typically what you get back....
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