Day 85 - Lay It Down (Dwele)

This song is one that has an interesting feel to it.  I think I appreciate the fact that he recognizes the beauty of this woman and is trying to help her get beyond some past baggage.  "Lay it down.  You should never ever, let lost love get the best of you, just lay it down.  One man's loss is this man's gain.  Won't you lay down your pain and breathe. I got what you need if you ever feel the need to lay it down.  It's your world if only for one night, it's for you."  It's clear that she's been recently hurt, and he appears to be attempting to comfort her.  He seems to be trying to convince her to trust him and even spend the night with him.
"I find it hard to believe someone as beautiful inside, as well as physical, would hold back something so emotional.  Just let it go, and lay it down, and enjoy yourself if only for the night.  Just leave it because a new day tomorrow will bring.  We will leave no void this moment can't replace.  So just, lay it down on me."  I guess my only concern with the song is that he appears to be trying to get her to trust him and even have sex with him, but I have to wonder if there is a friendship there, or if he just met her and sees she's sad so he's just trying to push up on her and take advantage, especially considering the 'one night' clause.  But then he says, "If I had one wish, it would be that I could spend more time with you and live in your aphrodisiality, so that we could do things lovers do.  If I could, you know I, give my love.  No need to worry about what time it is.

You'll find myself to be available, so that I could know exactly what it is."  So maybe he is a genuine friend who wants to know her and even build a relationship with her.
If there's one thing I've learned, as much as it's important to be able to spend time by yourself to heal from certain things, some things can only be learned and healed in relationship with others.  "Come here, lady.  Lay it down, let your soul be down, I'm gonna give you peace of mind." I know that time by myself in reflection and prayer can do wonders for me.  But on the other side of that, there are some things that I could only learn in the context of a romantic relationship and some things I could only learn in a platonic friendship with a male and some things I could only learn in a circle of sisters. 
So, I encourage being able to lay down some of your struggles and trust in safe space.  Allow the Spirit to lead you as you seek relationship, because every relationship will teach you something.  That doesn't mean to have a relationship with everyone you meet, but it does mean that you shouldn't shun every person or refuse to trust everyone because of past experiences and heartbreak.