Day 96 - Where You At (revisited)

I have come to the understanding that I am in process and that I am ever evolving.  Because of this, my perspective on things can change.  As one of my friends told me yesterday, I look at things as if through a prism - I turn something over and around in my head and see it different ways from all different angles.  While this isn't always a good thing, as in the context of the conversation we were having, it can prove beneficial in certain respects, and I believe that this is one of them.  Because I love JHud's voice and her passion when she sings, I continued listening to the song even though it originally bothered me.  As I did, I found another layer as I began to hear resonances of her song in my own soul.
Now, I've been single for quite a while now, but this song seems to have further application than the literal voice and meaning.  While Jennifer was singing to a romantic partner, I believe that the basis of the song is trust and broken promises.  Trust is crucial in every relationship, and when trust is broken, there can be a sense of disappointment, betrayal, and abandonment.  These can be poisonous feelings that hurt not only the relationship in question but the person experiencing the emotions.  This seems to be where this song is coming from, and that can be experienced in any relationship.  The one that comes to mind for me is the parent-child relationship, because that is the one that resonates strongest for me.
Now, I have never been a parent, but I am a child, and I can say that there were many a night when "I went to sleep on a cloud and woke up in the dirt" because yet another promise had been broken.  Even some basic needs and desires that children have of parents weren't met, and I often wondered why it was so hard to have my needs met and why I was being "failed" by those in my life who I should have been able to count on. This has forever changed my life and perspective, and I have a feeling I'm not the only child with such experiences or feelings.
I admonish parents to be as loving, truthful, and dedicated to your children as possible. Everything you do and say, don't do or don't say affects your children.  To people who have dealt with the pain of those broken promises, practice forgiveness and understanding.  While it may be true that you weren't lied to or neglected, that doesn't have to be your entire story or the determining factor for the rest of your life.  While your parents were in control when you were younger, you now have the power to be in control.  Know that just because you have been less than cared for doesn't make you any less worthy of care.  You still deserve to be fully loved and appreciated even if that hasn't been your experience.  Everyone deserves to be loved.  Become a healthier you (whether through counseling, prayer, introspection, etc) and don't make the same mistakes in your relationships (parental or otherwise) that you've seen/experienced others making.
Do your best to be at your best, and don't ever have people asking "where you at?"!